The Nag Diaries 1.4 or something

So, I got mad at my hubby and threatened to throw away the PS2.

I don't care I am just fed up with that electronic husband stealer!!

Ok so when my hub asked to buy it I said in all cheesiness - sure baby go ahead. Mind you, I had only been married for approximately 27 days and I was still in a honeymoon euphoric coma.......

I snapped out of that after almost three months of PS2 domination. Every time I came home my husband rush to the stupid PS2. I would leave the room for about two minutes and come back to some sniper video game. Then he has the audacity to throw little hints at me like "look honey, the PS3 is $399 now!" - as if I care???

Oh but wait, he did buy me my Nintendo DS for my birthday - that was really sweet - I have never had a hand held game before. He even put pretty sparkly sticky thingys on it to spell my nickname.

Then I realized that he might have bought this for me to run interference for when he is playing his PS2! Ya think??!

Oh yeah, he also bought me Twisted Metal.......a game that I LOVE but I am a word game girl - I don't get all excited playing Assault assassin or TKOing a fighter, DXing another wrestler or anything like that. I LIKE ANAGRAMS! And making words out of different letters......and puzzles........trivia.........you know wannabe nerd stuff cause I am NOT a nerd.

I WANT MY HUSBAND BACK!!!

So to the makers of ALL the game consoles - Are you guys married???? I mean I know Bill Gates is married but we never see her anyway.....so that doesn't count. But seriously......how do your wives deal with hours of video game play and attention to the wife??

That's ok, I have a remedy for that......my own version of a game console...........its called Intercourse Assassin.

Ode to my Husband.....

Sometimes I miss you

Sometimes you miss me

Other times I just want to watch TV

Comic book readings

and video game scores

Who woulda thought

I could be such a bore

I am a lovesick puppy

lapping up your syrup of love

the end.

Bloggedy, blog, blog

this is my official I have nothing to blog about blog. So sue me. I listened to Kid Kraddick this morning - Taylors' leaving the show (hope they have a DJ contest - Im all over it!). I tried to call in for the "What is that?" contest but alas - I could not get through! I miss my hubby .........People put out their sexiest man issue - Matt Damon - ????? I dont know about him but he was kinda sexy in the Bourne Identity in a amnesiatic way - so vulnerable - just dont pull a gun on em. Isaiah Washingtons short run on Bionic Woman is officially over - shot to the gut. Jenny Garth is still on Dancing With the Stars (????). Ambriel got voted off (for the second time) on ANTM and they are going to China.

It took about 10 shots just to get this one picture

- yuck! I am NO top model but I think Im cute.....

this is what happens when you are bored at work - the bathroom stall becomes your modeling studio.

Give me more

No........more

give me some attitude...

REAL ATTITUDE!

Alright now.....tone it down

NO, NO, NO!

Smile for me.....

give me coy!!

peek a boo

sale the product!

Cause we're a family...

My daughter has been acting strange lately.  She lost her homework two days in a row, she has been whining and babyish.  I think she is imitating someone in her class.  I hate that!!  I am really considering setting up my little Chevy Malibu with in-dash cameras.  My husband is hilarious!  It reminds me of those Sonic commercials with the husband and wife........

My brother has decided that he really does not like to study and he wants to be a "vegenarian" not my words but his.  I know he is just goofing off but you can use a word for so long that it becomes part of your vocabulary - hence the word "blog".  And that is it for today.  Can't all be exciting.

Lata!

Thorns with Grace

The Nag Diaries 1.3

Soooo, it is after 6pm and I am at home with my family. I dont understand it but my husband........is acting weird. He is doing things he wouldn't usually do, being super understanding, offering his services without being asked.......Im like astounded. I went to my new members orientation this past weekend and the orientation leader spoke briefly on marriage. She referenced praying over your husband and set up the scenario of "anointing your husbands head with oil but make him think you are just massaging his head" - I thought that was funny. Rubbing my honeys bald head with oil - he will definately know something is up.

Back to the subject - my husband may not do everything that I do and how I do it but he makes an effort. Women sometimes expect the man they marry to immediately change because we have changed but this is not so. I mentioned "male years" in another blog and I believe this is tied into spirituality. A man that has a right relationship with God can be made wise in time.

So I am going to be more patient, more appreciative, more understanding and more loving. He deserves it - and he looks good in boxer briefs!!

The Nag Diaries 1.3

Soooo, it is after 6pm and I am at home with my family. I dont understand it but my husband........is acting weird. He is doing things he wouldn't usually do, being super understanding, offering his services without being asked.......Im like astounded. I went to my new members orientation this past weekend and the orientation leader spoke briefly on marriage. She referenced praying over your husband and set up the scenario of "anointing your husbands head with oil but make him think you are just massaging his head" - I thought that was funny. Rubbing my honeys bald head with oil - he will definately know something is up.

Back to the subject - my husband may not do everything that I do and how I do it but he makes an effort. Women sometimes expect the man they marry to immediately change because we have changed but this is not so. I mentioned "male years" in another blog and I believe this is tied into spirituality. A man that has a right relationship with God can be made wise in time.

So I am going to be more patient, more appreciative, more understanding and more loving. He deserves it - and he looks good in boxer briefs!!

Towel pets

When my hubby and I went on our honeymoon, we took a cruise to Cabo San Lucas. We didnt get to go to Cabo because of the weather but the cruise itself was soooo much fun. Below are some of the highlights via photo but what I really wanted to question all yall bloggers out there about is the topic of Towel Animals! If you have pics of them post them up or make your own then take pictures of them and post em...

What's for Dinner?

yeah like I am supposed to know - Im at work! I love my husband really I do - never loved anyone like him and will never love anyone like him again.

Im at work and my honey - such the good husband that he is, calls me up to ask what I want for dinner. How am I supposed to know - Im thinking about when 6 o'clock is going to come around so I can go home.

So I make a quick suggestion to him of: Two cans of tomato sauce, beef for thin slicing, another bag of broccoli florets (we only have one), white pepper and red pepper flakes. This is a good dish - I got it off of a Campbell's tomato soup can - anyway, guess what the King says - "That doesn't sound very appetizing......." and then we start going back and forth about how he needs to try new things and dangit it might be good, and he is whining about how his momma used to push foreign dishes on him and of course I let him know right then and there that Im NOT his momma!

Mind you - Im a work and my immediate supervisor just happens to walk by when I say this and tosses me an "You ok?" look

Anyway, I still dont know whats for dinner......but the recipe is below if any of yall wanna try it...

Beef & Broccoli
From: Campbell's Kitchen
Prep/Cook: 25 minutes
Serves: 4

Steak strips are stir-fried with broccoli and simmered in a tangy tomato sauce. Served over rice, this tasty dish is sure to please your dinnertime crowd.
Ingredients:
1 lb. boneless beef sirloin steak OR beef top round steak, 3/4" thick1 tbsp. vegetable oil 1 can (10 3/4 oz.) Campbell's® Condensed Tomato Soup 3 tbsp. soy sauce 1 tbsp. vinegar 1 tsp. garlic powder 1/4 tsp. crushed red pepper (optional)3 cups fresh OR frozen broccoli flowerets 4 cups hot cooked rice
Directions:

SLICE beef into very thin strips.
HEAT oil in skillet. Add beef and stir-fry until browned and juices evaporate.
ADD soup, soy, vinegar, garlic powder and pepper. Heat to a boil. Add broccoli and cook until tender-crisp. Serve over rice.

TIP: To make slicing easier, freeze beef 1 hr.

In the Beginning.........

I started this blog for all of the women out there who are married, will be married again, divorced and widowed.

I am member of a mommy group and I read so many stories of women who were left by their husbands. I didn't realize the problem was that serious. So post up your thoughts, your anger, your suggestions and words of encouragement for women who are suffering and maybe some men who may be suffering because in some way or another they have lost their spouse.

Blessings to you...........

The Nag Diaries 1.2

Today is Sunday!! We went to church this morning and like my last three experiences with our new church - it was enlightening and uplifting - praise be to God. My husband actually woke up this day and did not frown complain or flap about going to church - amazing!

What hurt me though about this day was the phone call my husband placed to his mother back in Cali. Let me give you some background -

My husband was lets just say not treated right when he was a child. His home life would have made any social worker weep. He has grown into an adult still harboring all of these issues that he had as a child - which I think sometimes affects our relationship but I haven't gotten my degree in sociology or psychology so I cant comment on that.

I was hurt because my husband was hurt - he found out that his mother, step-father and little brother who is 13 years old took a trip to San Diego for the Chargers game today......something that his mother never did for him when he was a child. I could tell that he was hurt but I just left it alone because I didn't want to open any old wounds.

What do you do when you cant get past physical and verbal abuse that you experienced as a child? I don't believe parents actually see the long term effects their behaviour has on their children. It's almost unfair because its like your first child is your test run any children after that you try to make up for the mistakes you made with your first child.

Is this what God was speaking of when he said honor thy mother and father - despite the fact that they totally messed up as parents in the past? Is this what it means to forgive? And when does the real healing begin?? And why do I as the wife have to deal with these old battle scars that are ripped open at every turn?

I'm no therapist but I think wives in these days have to practice a little therapy just to make sure that their marriage survives. So many women give in to divorce and separations over really trivial reasons. But it is my belief that a little prayer and understanding can go a long way in a marriage if we allow ourselves to see through our husbands eyes.

What's your thorn??

So whats your thorn? Comon' spill it!

This is what good ole Paul said and of course Jesus' reply- I will paraphrase:

"So, in order to keep me from getting such a big head, God sent me a messenger of the flesh - an issue of Satan to remind me that I am human. I asked him like three times already to heal me of it but he said to me, "My grace is enough for you Paul, you know you are a sinner anyway, therefore my power is made perfect in weakness."

So we all have issues of the flesh to reminds us that we are not perfect. That stuttered speech, our bull headedness or maybe we were injured and every now and again that old injury starts to ache and we are reminded that we survived. Whatever our thorn is - we keep movin forward in our weakness and God provides the rest.

My thorn in my flesh is....................drum roll please: Control. I have to be in control of everything or I feel like Im not being productive. Which is why I have decided to walk away from pursuing my "degree" any further. My grandmother told me that school can become an addiction and ya know what she is right!

She made me realize that I have been going to school since 1996 - High school - graduated, junior college - graduated, 4 year university - graduated, 4 year university again - huh??

I keep feeling like I need to keep going to school because I dont know what I want to do yet. I want to be an actress, a marriage counselor, a girl scout leader, a camp counselor, a consultant - but no where in there can I learn about being a better Christian and my desires are all tied up in my distractions.

I keep tellin myself that I need to go to school and you know what I dont. I have a degree already........the only school I need to go to is ULIFE - U Live In Fullness Everyday.

Give me a thorn and I'll show you the Rose its clinging to ~ A NayLahism

The Nag Diaries

This picture was taken approximately one month after my car accident in 2006...........I didn't realize it would be a precursor for my marriage. So lets analyze.........My now husband is the man in the picture - Gezz - LOVE HIM. I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would be missing half of myself but marriage does that to you. It takes the half of you that you thought you knew and replaces it with the person you are going to "know" for the rest of your life - that is if you stay married to one person........dang I feel for all those folks who have been married multiple times - now that is scary! So now you end up having to learn about who you are all over again in terms of your new spouse AND on top of that you have to learn about who your new spouse is in terms of being a NEW SPOUSE because people tend to be different after they get married, furthermore you find out that you may just have to change a little, ok some, no! dangit A HECK OF A WHOLE LOT just to be able to live sanely!!!!!

Anyway, so do men think in "male years"? What is male years you might ask, well it is my take on how men think in terms of their age. I believe my husband is in the "just discovered that I liked my freedom/privacy" stage which would be at about 13 in male years.

So how do I tackle that? His definition of nagging is quite different from mine. If I just happened to mention the same thing more then once but at different times or days - its nagging. In my opinion its constructive reminding.

I am only trying to help him out you know because he forgets and since I am biblically his "help mate" I should help him remember - kind of like Gingko Biloba - right? But is it too much? We have only been married for about 3 1/2 months and to me - I'm still honeymooning - but what to do when the sun keeps coming up on your honeymoon - and what the heck does honeymoon mean anyway???!!!! Sorry. (Clears throat)- I just want some insight some direction, a male perspective on this and can someone please tell me when married men actually start to get it? Because right now I feel like the series below......sometimes most of me is out of the equation, my husband acts like a baby, then I love him to death, then we both wig out and we are both left feeling bored and just.......plain..........blah........